One reason why some people love dogs so much?
Dogs answer the four questions with a big, “Yes!” near constantly. Those furry little spiritual masters are always in the present and the quality of their connection is always heightened – so is the level of connection they emit.
Unlike our K-9 counterparts, we regularly slip out of the present moment and go somewhere else. In an earlier post, What We Say in Silence, we identify what those 4 questions are:
The Four Critical Questions:
Do you see me?
Do you care that I’m here?
Am I enough for you, or do you need me to be better in some way?
Can I tell I’m special to you by the way you look at me?
It at least makes more sense when we evade the present moment during ostensibly mundane activities, like an unnecessary meeting, doing laundry, our commute, etc. But invariably, the habit of not being present spills over into the moments we really mean to be present for, such as:
The love of your life walks into the room before bed and you barely look up from your phone.
You meet your best friend for brunch and go through the motions of ‘the hug’, the ‘you look so cute’ and the ‘it took forever to get here!’ without actually feeling much. Insert superficial BS here!
You’re tying your daughter’s shoe and when you’re done, you get up to reach for her packed lunch and hand it to her while you’re simultaneously grabbing your bag and keys, all without ever looking at her. WTF!